In the victim triangle, the victim is the person who is experiencing a problem or hardship. They may feel helpless and unable to solve the problem on their own. The rescuer is the person who comes to the aid of the victim, often feeling a sense of obligation to help or a desire to be needed. The perpetrator is the person who is causing the problem or hardship for the victim.
The victim triangle can be a harmful dynamic for all parties involved. The victim may become dependent on the rescuer and may not take steps to solve their own problems. The rescuer may become enmeshed in the victim’s problems and may neglect their own needs. The perpetrator may continue to cause harm without accountability.
To break the victim triangle, it is important for the victim to take responsibility for their own problems and to work towards solving them. The rescuer should set boundaries and not enable the victim’s dependency. The perpetrator should be held accountable for their actions and take steps to change their behavior.
It is also important for all parties involved to communicate openly and honestly with one another. This can help to build trust and understanding, and can facilitate the process of breaking the victim triangle.
It’s important to note that this dynamic can be subtle and can be present in different forms, sometimes the rescuer and perpetrator change their role and it’s not always clear who is playing what role.
In summary, the victim triangle is a harmful dynamic that can occur in relationships where one person plays the role of the victim, another plays the role of the rescuer, and a third plays the role of the perpetrator. To break this dynamic, all parties involved should take responsibility for their actions and communicate openly and honestly with one another.
With thanks to Mary Rogers for the contribution.